I constantly inhale courage and confidence and exhale fear and doubt. When you own your own breath, no one can steal your peace. Do more than just exist!

Fill your life with experiences; not only things! Remember, it’s your life! Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for living it the way you want to.

Constantly make choices that liberate you. To realize who you are is Freedom!


I’m thankful for my struggle because without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength. Every brick that has been thrown at me; I’ve used to build a platform to stand on.

Self Love is the greatest medicine! Love your WHOLE story. Fall in love with taking care of yourself. . .Mind, Body, & Spirit!

Great things never came from comfort zones! Live less out of habit and more out of intent.

Be BOLD! Bold enough to use your voice, brave enough to listen to your heart and strong enough to live the life you’ve always imagined

Location The Highline. . .NYC

Photographer   Matey Ghoslow Photography

Ankara Jumper Designed by me 😁 Available for purchase Fall 2016

Shoes From my closet! Purchased from Faith in London over 15 years ago


Beyoncé slays. . .Indeed! Not only is she strategic in dropping her video prior to her Super Bowl Performance; she blatantly makes it clear who she is!

This video is EPIC!


The lyrics to “Formation” are bold and representational. Not only does the theme adddress what is currently happening in today’s concerning and growing social issues, she diffuses rumors and proudly boasts her roots. I previously posted an article referencing pressure from media outlets to change who you are to fit society’s Beauty Standard Ideals. Beyoncé makes it clear that she’s not interested in doing any of that! She loves exactly who she is and she needs her ladies to get in Formation!

Lyrics such as. . .“I like my negro nose with Jackson Five nostrils”. . . Cameo of Blue Ivy and her squad, while Beyoncé sings, “I like my baby hair, with baby hair and Afros”. . .hinting to the media making a mockery of her husband’s features and Blue Ivy’s natural tresses. Natural Hair has been on the rise! Some think it’s a trend; I beg to differ. It’s a Lifestyle! The clear representation of being proud of having natural hair is evident throughout the video. Beyoncé made it clear that she does not care what anyone thinks!

It’s no secret that Beyoncé has been referenced as being involved with the secret society; Illuminati. She opened by saying “Ya’ll Haters Corny With that Illuminati Mess. . .” This is the first time I’ve heard her mention and address it publicly. She makes it clear that she is blessed and she gains success by giving God thanks and by working hard.

Lyrics. . . I see it, I want it; I stunt, yeah, little hornet; I dream it, I work hard; I grind ’til I own it! And then some!

Beyoncé pays homage to YouTube sensation of the early 2000’s, Messy Mya (tragically gunned down in 2010) who shared much light on what was happening in New Orleans. You will also see reference of the Church empowering people and highlights of police brutality.

I can go on and on about the representation in this video. Watch it if you haven’t already.

Lastly, Beyoncé ended with the words “You know you that b!tch when you cause all that conversation! Always stay gracious! Best revenge is your paper.” HA! I highly agree!

Watch Formation Here

Beauty Standards. . .What’s Ideal?

I believe the answer will depend on whom is being asked. Beauty can be…and is expressed and translated in many forms. One may express beauty through art while another may choose to express beauty through fashion, hair, music or all of the above. In regards to physical beauty, there are usually various opinions and debates on what is and what is not ideal.

When I saw this image, I stared at it for a while. It fiercely resonates with me. 99.9% of what is written has been and at times. . .is still said to me. I went back to my natural kinks almost 20 years ago. The natural products you now see on shelves did not exist back then. At that time, I was attending Long Island University’s Brooklyn Campus. I befriended a few Naturalista’s at school and they provided me with information on natural hair products. I started purchasing Carol’s Daughter’s products. This is when her shop was at Spike Lee’s old Joint on Dekalb Ave & South Elliot Pl; literally a few blocks from school. When I found these products for my hair, I was the happiest woman on Earth. Not only did I have natural products for my texture; to see a black woman who owned and operated this business with her family was just PHENOMENAL!

Prior to going back to my natural kinks, I had a perm and wore weaves. I loved it! Society taught me that this was how my hair should look. I felt beautiful. . .but, there came a time where this stopped agreeing with me. Years and years of chemical abuse started to show. My hair was breaking, shredding, falling out…It was very weak and tired! It was then that I made the conscious decision to just cut it all off and start over. This also awakened a new me!

My natural hair downright offended folks. I would hear, “What is that on your head?…It doesn’t hurt when you comb it?…I really think you would look nicer with a weave!…Press that shit!…It’s too kinky!…You look like a coffee shop chick!…You really look African now!…You look like Kizzy from Roots!…Can I touch it?” I even received criticism from my parents. I’ll save my complete story for another day 😉

This image speaks volumes! Whether you are dark-skinned and natural, light-skinned with straight hair or vice versa; you face ridicule, judgement, whisper…all kinds of opinions will be thrown at you. This happens because society spreads it’s own convoluted messages on what beauty should look like.

Why should I wear my hair straight because you don’t know what to do with your natural hair? Why should my friend cut off her relaxer because you went back to your natural kinks?

Body Shaming. . .What’s That? Unfortunately, body shaming is a part of our daily lives. Women are shamed for being too dark, light, fat, skinny, tall, short, petite, busty, flat chested, having a flat ass, having too big of an ass, for being too plain, wearing makeup, having a thin nose, big lips, being too sexy. . .for just being a woman!

Magazines, billboards and social media outlets constantly encourage us to change our appearance. We are continually reminded of this through body slimming tea advertisements, body shapers, liposuction, hair, lightening creams. . .etc. These messages and the messages we may receive from others often imply that we should want to change; that we should care about looking smaller, thicker, darker, brighter.  .  .the list goes on!

Young girls are being corrupted and brainwashed daily. Mass media is one of the most powerful tools for young girls and women to learn and also understand feminine beauty ideals. “Before mass media even existed, our ideas of beauty were limited to our own families and communities.” Because of that, people would stick to seeing each other in person in order to form beauty ideals. But as mass media develops, the way people see feminine beauty ideals changes as does how females view themselves and one another.

Each day, girls are exposed to images of beautiful models and advertisements about beauty and fashion.” says Renee Hobbs, EdD, associate professor of communications at Temple University.

Beauty ideals are exposed to children from an early age through fairy tales and Disney princesses. The feminine beauty ideal has become more ingrained and cohesive in recent decades because of the expansion of technology and the relevance of mass media. Research has shown that the pressure to conform to a certain definition of beautiful has had drastic psychological effects. These ideals have been correlated with depression, eating disorders, and low self-esteem starting from an adolescent age and continuing into adulthood – via Wikipedia

Body Positivity

Again, Western Ideals have a profound effect on our perception of Beauty! It is no secret that the fashion industry has been guilty of body shaming and photoshopping for years! In recent years, curvy and voluptuous women have been taking a stand and fighting back on what’s considered “Normal!”  Curvier women are on runways and in print. The various body positivie and love yourself campaigns that I’ve been seeing are capturing many hearts. It has helped change the game. It has aided in redefining what “Beautiful” is. It has also taken “Confidence” and “Self-Esteem” to a totally different level!

It’s an amazing thing to see a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and dares to be “Unaplogetically” Her!


The term “Colorism” was coined by author Alice Walker in 1982. It is not the same as racism. Colorism is dependent upon the social status on skin color alone.

“Colorism is discrimination or bias based on skin color. Colorism has roots in racism and classism and is a well-documented problem in the black, Asian and Hispanic community. People who partake in colorism typically value people with lighter skin more than their darker-skinned counterparts. They’re likely to view lighter-skinned people as more attractive, intelligent and generally more worthy of attention and praise than darker-skinned people. In essence, having lighter skin or being associated with light-skinned people is a status symbol. Members of the same racial group may participate in colorism, giving preferential treatment to the lighter-skinned members of their ethnic group. Outsiders may also participate in colorism, such as a white person who favors lighter-skinned blacks over their darker-skinned peers,” says race relations expert, Nadra Kareem Nittle.

Mass media often bolsters discrimination based on skin color. Scottish artist, Rawdi, depicts the beauty standards of women of color and blackface in the fashion industry. These images are powerful! The black model is condisered too dark and her hair is too kinky. Her hair is being straightened and her skin is being lightened so she can occur to others as more appealing. The white model feels she is too pale and her hair is too straight. She gives herself curls and darkens/tans her skin with makeup so she can occur to others as more appealing (Blackface).

The images below are from an Animated Short Film titled ‘Yellow Fever,’ which explores Colorism & Self-Image among African women and young girls. This mixed-media documentary animation by Kenyan filmmaker Ng’endo Muki was a. thesis project at London’s Royal College of Art. This lovely animation explores the effects of Euorpean beauty standards and highlights the reasons why darker skinned women resort to bleaching creams to lighten their skin. Yellow Fever also addresses how certain beauty standards are passed down through generations.

In these particular images from the short film, Ng’endo Mukii’s niece states that she wishes she were American and white. When asked how she sees herself,  she stated that she is uncomfortable with her dark skin every time she sees her reflection in the mirror.

All of the images I shared is to provide examples of the different beauty standards and ideals that we face today. The question, Beauty Standards. . .What’s Ideal?. . .is not so easy to answer. Depending on who you are, where you are, your confidence and self-esteem level, what you view as beautiful, what you take offense to. . .will shape your view(s) on, “What’s Ideal?” 

How would you answer this question? How did these images make you feel?  Share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you!

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Own Who You Are!

Hey There!

This is my very first post on my new website. It’s quite exciting! I truly never imagined starting off with pouring my heart out. I just knew my first post would be about a fresh new hair cut! Instead, I decided to share my thoughts.

Before the end of 2015, I shared a part of my world in a post on my personal Facebook & Instagram accounts. To my surprise, I received a lot of positive feedback. In addition to comments, I received messages from numerous people. The interactions were absolutely Phenomal! Sharing parts of yourself can open up so many things for others. You have no idea!

Many are afraid of sharing the “Not so Great” moments of their lives in fear of looking bad and being judged. A majority of the time, when someone passes judgement on you, it is something within themselves that they do not want to face. It’s usually NEVER about you. . .but their own limitations and/or insecurities. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is honest constructive criticism and there is JUDGEMENT. You must learn to differentiate the two. That’s an entire different topic for another day 😉

A few of you may feel that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness. WRONG! It is absolute courage! There is nothing like owning all that you are without any excuses or apologies. Do not be afraid of vulnerability. There is great reward in being vulnerable. It takes courage to ask for what you need, to express your feelings and to have those hard conversations that most keep hidden and locked away. It can also be a major bridge to building great connections. Does this make you a sucker? Absolutely NOT! I know it is no easy task. Your heart has to be completely open.

Authenticity also requires vulnerability in addition to transparency and integrity. I aim to be as authentic as possible. I have done. . .well, (still doing – I’m far from perfect), some major work on myself in regards to Integrity. If you cannot be honest and authentic with yourself, it will be hard to be honest and authentic with others. Aim to always do what is right, not what’s easy. You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.

The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all – Anonymous

The words below. . .the original share I posted on December 31st, 2015.

Own Who you are! Be Fearlessly Authentic!

Sooooo, in 2015. . .

▪ I have reestablished unconditional love for myself
▪ I not only strengthened but reinforced my personal relationship with God
▪ I have forgiven myself
▪ I have forgiven others
▪ I took a stand & stood up for myself in MANY negative situations
▪ I’ve become comfortable with being fully expressed
▪ I’m OK with the fact that I make a few uncomfortable (Means I’m doing something RIGHT)
▪ I Eliminated 85% of my debt (Almost DEBT Free)
▪ I have a new found Freedom & it feels Amazing
▪ I moved back to New York
▪ I’ve identified what I’m Attached to vs. what I’m Committed to
▪ I Restored full Integrity & recommited to myself
▪ I’ve taken on a project that will change the lives of many children (will not reveal as of yet)
▪ I gained many new powerful acquaintances in my network (personal & business)
▪ Got my Sexy Back (All Mental)
▪ I identified a whole lot of the negative in my life & I have taken steps to eliminate it (this includes people) ⬅ Do not be afraid to let go!
▪ I’m determined & focused

Mannnn listen! I’ve been through a lot of shit this year! As I’m sure many of you have been. Don’t glorify the negative. Celebrate the positive! You’re still alive & breathing; which means you have the Power to create anything you want for yourself!

I have no new year resolutions! I already have what I need & will continue to work for what I want! I look forward to a powerful 2016 & hope & pray many of you will be a part of it.

Happy New Year!