Empowered Women Empower Women

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What exactly is Women Empowerment?

Being empowered as a woman is one of the most important things that can happen in our society at the moment. We are the carriers of the culture and predominantly the primary care givers. How and what we teach our young girls and boys, is reflected in the society we currently exist in.

When we continue to dumb ourselves down, deflect our successes, and when we constantly apologize for being who we are. . .we are teaching others that we are not good enough. When we as women lower our vibration, we are energetically transmitting our fears and insecurities to others. We are telling the world that we do not believe in what we have to offer and so why should anyone else?

I personally have had to fall and fall and fall and fall and fall (I’m sure you get the picture by how many times I wrote that) time and time again in order to not only rise, but to be able to stand grounded! The humble beginnings of taking my power back! I could not have done so if I did not take 100% responsibility for my life and without having a tribe of empowering women in my corner.

How can Empowered Women Empower Women?

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10 Ways to Help Empower Women & young Girls

1. Know Your Worth

Knowing your worth and value is vital if you want to have success and happiness in your life. For you to feel fully alive, you must have a strong sense of self-worth and exude confidence. It is not easy all the time; but it is so important and absolutely necessary. We all have the ability to develop confidence and to also have an optimistic view of self. It all starts with overstanding yourself as a person, accepting yourself unconditionally, practicing self-love, recognizing that you no longer need to please other people and taking full responsibility for your life.

2. Lead By Example

I’ve always loved this quote, “Instruction is good for a child; but example is worth more.” As you become more present in your own life, you will begin to enlighten others by your example. This is one of the most important ways you can empower women. Young women are influenced by their role models, so it’s important to be a dynamic one. Admire strong women, celebrate different types of beauty, empower women with humility and kindness, and encourage women to turn their dreams in to a reality.  

3. Be Open and Honest

If you raised your eyebrow after reading that, I don’t blame you. It’s not always easy to be vulnerable. Personally, it took me some time to share my most intimate and what I felt were embarrassing experiences at certain times in my life with others. As I became more comfortable doing so, I realized my truths were not only helping others navigate through their experiences, but by me being open and honest I was also helping myself heal. At times, it can be hard to share your experiences with others, but it can play an important role in giving other women a voice. Without women like Yaa Asantewaa, Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Michelle Obama, Serena Williams, and Malala Yousafzai; just to name a few. . .we women wouldn’t have some of the rights we have today. Thanks to these women for fighting for, speaking out, and sharing their struggles; real changes have been made in areas such as legislation, societal expectations and even how women and young girls view themselves in the mirror on a daily basis. While it’s important to share your own story, it’s just as important to listen to other women’s stories and experiences.

4. Shut Down Negativity

Stay away from anything and anyone negative. . .PERIOD! Women are constantly exposed to negativity as we’re often held to unrealistic standards of beauty displayed in magazines, on TV, and of course, on social media. Media has created a culture where women and men can freely express themselves. Social media has also opened the floor for others to slander one another and circulate negative comments about women’s appearances and or what they should be doing with their bodies. . .their lives. Negativity online has become a huge problem, especially among our younger generation. It’s important to lift women up by taking a stance against negativity; whether online, at the office, in school. . . it’s vital to combat negativity by continuing to promote truth and authenticity. Don’t be afraid to shut negativity down; no matter who it is coming from. Respectively, be as direct and honest as you can. The tribe of women you are supposed to have in your space will appreciate your honesty and YOU.  

5. have a self-care day weekly

You owe it to yourself on a weekly basis. My Self-Care Day is every Sunday. Depending on what my schedule consists of on that Sunday will determine my routine. If I’m home, I make sure I give myself a facial, take a herbal bath, wash and deep condition my hair and review both my personal & business schedule for the weeks ahead. If I’m out of town on business or traveling, I always make sure I set time aside to listen to some TED Talks and immerse myself in as much positivity as I can. My mental health depends on it! So does yours! Self-care is important to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself as it produces positive feelings and boosts your confidence and self-esteem. Self-care is necessary to remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important too. Continue to take care of yourself so that you can help empower and take care of others.

6. help Boost another woman’s Self-Esteem

Empowered women empower women, Right? So be sure to encourage the women around you. Make them feel special. Let them know they are strong. Encourage your friends to speak up. Make sure they know the value of their opinions so that they’re never scared to use their voice. If you have daughters, nieces. . .any young women around you. . .celebrate her self-expression; whether she loves to dress up in full princess or batman attire, or she likes to express herself by drawing, encourage her to be her authentic self. Encourage another women’s unique personality by supporting her interests wholeheartedly, whether she’s into sports, drama (the theater type of course, lol), pottery, knitting or academics.

7. Become a Mentor

Becoming a Troop 6000 Girl Scout leader two years ago is one of the best decisions I could have ever made for myself. I love working with young women. They bring me so much joy. There is nothing like a young lady giving me a hug and whispering, “I’m so happy you’re in my life!” Whether you find a mentorship program in your community or focus on inspiring your friends and sisters, being a mentor is a great way to inspire young women. Gather a group of girls and encourage them to participate in an empowerment activity. You can totally do it!

8. Support Women owned & Women Run Businesses

As a female entrepreneur who has the pleasure of getting support from other women, I cannot begin to describe what it does to my soul! I too love to support my fellow women owned and women run businesses. There is nothing like watching another woman WIN! Show your support for women in your community by investing in businesses run by your fellow sisters.

9. Support Organizations That Empower Women

Do what you can to support organizations that are committed to empowering women. Whether you make a donation, give your time, or refer a friend to a business or organization that makes empowering women a priority, your support truly matters.

10. love on the Women in Your Life

Say Heyyyyyy Beautiful!  Say I Love You! Say Thank you! Give genuine compliments while allowing yourself to also receive them when given. Help out the women around you. Showing the women in your life how much you appreciate them by sending a thank you card, a positive email or text, or simply telling them what they mean to you can truly brighten another women’s day.

Closing thoughts

Empowering women ultimately starts with you. Show your support for the women in your life, show them they matter, and remind them that they are strong and capable of doing anything they put their minds to. Changing the narrative for women and seeing real change is a collaborative effort. Us women need to stick together.

If you agree, share this article with the women in your life, and encourage them to be that Empowered Woman that Empowers Women.

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Styled by | Tima Samad

Photography | Jazz Journey Photography

Jewelry | Design By U Essentials

Straw Set Curls

I achieved these curls by doing a Straw Set. Follow these few steps.

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1. Prepped all my products. I moisturized with Girl and Hair leave in conditioner. It’s very hydrating.

2. ALWAYS #Detangle your hair. I prefer using a Detangle Brush. I tried a new one today by Txture Pro I ❤ it & highly recommend it

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3. Section your hair in the direction you want your twists to fall

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4. Straw Set: Direction is important. I have about 4 small sections. I twisted my hair on the straws in an upwards motion (coming forward). I used #ecostyler Black Castor & Flaxseed Gel

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5. Unravel; separate your curls

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6. I Lightly teased my roots & curls with my fingers; again, in an upwards motion. I didn’t separate them much.

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7. I Styled my curls in a Mohawk. I wanted my curls to look a lil old, not too fresh…so I did my straw set whilst my hair was dry. First time in a while with these curls. I love the end result. Switching up from time to time is good 😉

My side’s were shaved ✂✂✂ by Master Barber Kevin Kidd

 

Custom Made

When you feel good, you look good! Be sure to Customize your life! After all, it is YOUR LIFE and you are Custom Made 💛

In regards to my style, I really love Custom Made pieces. I have a closet full of dresses and skirts you will not see on another person. Custom made makes your look classic, unique and different! In addition to standing out in the crowd, you support another’s dream and passion.

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Fashion is what you buy. Style is what you do with it! Fashion is ART and you are the canvas; so forget the rules! If you like it WEAR IT! Make sure it’s Hot though, lol 😉😆

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Don’t be afraid to wear horizontal stripes! They’re always going to be a Big Fashion Statement! I had this skirt made about 5 years ago and this is my second time wearing it since! The key is HOW. . .what you pair it with and styling it for your body type.

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💛 Loving & Living Life 💛

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Location | Bronx, NY

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Maxi Skirt  |Nsaa House of Designs

Top | Rainbow Shops

Earrings| Design By U Essentials

 

Nothing like a flowing Maxi Dress

No matter what people think of you, keep singing your own song! Many may not know this but music is my sanity. I cannot go a day without singing or listening to music. I was having a moment in this shot 🎤🎵🎶🎵

Now about this dress 😁

I have quite a few favorite style looks. Maxi dresses & skirts are definitely on my list! Can you believe I bought this amazing Maxi dress for $20? Yes, you saw that price correctly!

It was on sale at Mandee’s in NYC. I purchased this dress a few months ago. This particular color may not be available, but they do have many great colors & patterns in stock now.

 The material and the way this dress flows is beyond words. I received many compliments while wearing this Beauty.

Because this dress speaks for itself, I decided to minimize my accessories and went with a Bold Metal Choker. I don’t have earrings on because I forgot to put them on 😩🙈

 

Location | Bronx, NY

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Maxi Dress |Mandee

Necklace| Design By U Essentials

Camo is my Happy Color

I absolutely LOVEEEEEEEE anything Camouflage! You will see me with this Camo jacket no less than 3 times a week once Spring rolls around 😁

I enjoy pairing Camouflage with Black, Brown’s and Neutral Tones.

This is one of my to go looks; a white tee or tank with a pair of ripped boyfriend jeans, booties, Camo & bold ethnic accessories! I’m wearing Ethnic inspired necklace ‘Symmetry’ & my wrists are adorned with ‘Bamboo’, wood bracelets (which I wear 99.9% of the time). . .from Design By U Essentials!

Don’t be afraid to enhance your look with jewelry and bags.

I follow NO trends! I wear what I love; I dress how I feel!

This bag is one of my absolute favorites! It was a gift from my Dad 3 years ago. We were together when he bought it in Wa, which is in the Upper West Region in Ghana. It is also where Dad’s side of the family is from. As soon as I saw it, my eyes LIT up. So he bought it for me. I love to support local artisans! Happy we had the opportunity to support an artisan in Ghana.

In addition to Camo & more Camo, I absolutely love ART and color. It makes me Happy!

The Amazing graffiti art in these photos is by Brazilian artist, Panmela Castro. You will find this phenomenal mural on the walls outside of Andrew Freeman Home on the Grand Concourse in Bronx, NY. Visit if you can. There is nothing like seeing it in person.

Location | Andrew Freedman Home

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Camo Jacket |Forever 21

White Tank |H & M

Boyfriend Jeans | H & M

Shoes | Cape Robbin

Jewelry |Design By U Essentials

Bag | Gift from Dad

Mural | Panmela Castro 

SASS & Strut 👠👄

Beautiful minds inspire others and Empowered Women; Empower Women!

I’m part of a phenomenal sisterhood on Facebook called Natural or Not. . .Hair We Come! It started off as a hair group giving natural hair care tips. It has currently grown to a tribe of almost 6k women sharing their LIFE experiences and supporting each others’ creativity, ventures and businesses.

We had a private event last Saturday in NYC in collaboration with Allure Dance NYC, led by our fierce and fab instructor for the night, Traye. Not only did she teach us ladies some great seductive and sensual dance moves, she taught us how to add that EXTRA ummmph; how to ‘Enhance our Sexy’! We had such a great time! That red lit room was full of confident women embracing their curves and owning their space on that dance floor. It’s also a plus when you’re getting a workout! Allure Dance NYC  has classes every Friday. You can also schedule a private class as a group. Check them out!

Collaboratively, NONHWC will be hosting another themed dance class and more events in the next coming weeks. Keep up with us on Facebook at Natural or Not. . .Hair We Come and on Instragram @hair_we_come

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. That is the true essence of beauty ~ Dr. Steve Maraboli

Ladies, Always be Confident, Beautiful and continue to ‘Enhance your Sexy’

Eye See You

Let me start off by saying Happy New Year! It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. This is my first post of 2017. I hope your year has started off with a BANG! My year surely has! I’m truly excited about all that is in store.

I would like to chat a little about gratitude. Being thankful and grateful is an amazing feeling. It’s a really big part of who I am! There is not a day that goes by where I do not give THANKS!

Today, I want to share a moment in particular. One evening while responding to comments on a post I shared on Instagram, someone wrote, “I most definitely have to draw you very soon.”  I responded by saying, “I would be honored.” He then responded by saying, “The Honor would be all mine. Stay Tuned!”

Imagine waking up to a tagged image of yourself two weeks later!

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My mouth fell open and I said, “Oh my God!” quite a few times! This image is phenomenal! It was beyond me! The artisit nailed my bold features, one of my favorite hair cuts, earrings I once made by hand, my fingers and even the folds in my neck. The detail was mind blowing. What really had me was the artist used two different images to create this! When I realized that, I just kept saying WOW!

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The above photos I have posted on my Instagram account is what he used as inspiration to create this phenomenal piece he titled “Eye See You.” Talk about amazing Talent!!!!!

After being in Awe for about half an hour, I immediately messaged him to thank him and tell him how much I loved it. I reposted it and the response from many was positively overwhelming. What truly made me happy is that many have connected with him.

A 40 x 28 size Canvas Print of “Eye See You” now hangs in my Apartment

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Photographer | Matey Ghoslow

The artist name is Tim Baxter. I’ve yet to meet him in person. We finally had the opportunity to speak last week. I used that opportunity to interview Tim briefly.

Meet the Artist

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When did you start drawing?

I started drawing in Kindergarten/first grade. Then, it was my brother & cousin who both inspired me to start drawing.

What’s your style of choice?

I like to use color pencils,  paint,  and I like drawing on my Ipad. It’s very convenient. I’ve been using it for the past year. I can change brushes, erase, and make changes. It’s like drawing on paper. I used a program called Procreate on my Ipad to draw your image.

The Process Click here to see the process Tim used on his Ipad In a program called Procreate to digitally draw the amazing image he created of me.

Why did you choose those images to draw of me?

You have a unique look. I used two different images because I didn’t want what I was creating to be an exact copy of anything. I wanted to create a unique pose, but also incorporate your images.

What’s your profession?

I am a Data Anaylst for a transportation company for the past 10 years. For the past 2 years, I’ve been pushing to put my art out. I’ve always wanted to work more behind the scenes. In the past I’ve done a book and album cover. It’s now that I would like to share my Art a lot more.

Where are you from? Where do you reside?

I’m born & raised in Brooklyn. I still reside in Brooklyn.

What school did you go to? What did you major in?

I went to Morgan State and majored in Business Administration & Computer Programming

Which are your favorite artists?

Ernest Barnes, Double Yoo and Damien Dunn

Are there any current projects that you’re working on?

I’m currently fininshing up a comic book that I started in 2003-2004. I have yet to publish it. I’ve always been into comics. I still have comics from when I was a boy. I have a series of characters that I would like to update. I also like to sculpt. I would like to sculpt images similar to my drawings; sculptures of females and of man and woman.

Tim Baxter in his own words

I’ve been drawing since 5 or 6 years old and my artwork has always been very important to me whether it’s for sale or just for me. There has always been a burning desire to either draw what I see, create characters or create something I’ve seen in my mind. My goal is not to be the best artist in NY or the world but to genuinely and honestly be the best me, the best Tim Baxter I can be. My hope is to leave this earth, when that time comes, knowing that I left behind a body of work this will continue to inspire, encourage, provoke and uplift. An artist whether visual, conceptual or performance, he or she should not be judged on the first or last piece they’ve done but their entire body of work, as a whole.

It was great conversing with Tim. He’s calm, funny and passionate about his work. You can view more of his work on his website

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I have LOVE for anything ART related. I believe in supporting artists  of any kind. I will finally get to meet Tim on February 19th at the UZURI ART Exhibit, an event curated by Like Minded People NYC. If you are in NY and can stop by, please do. I look forward to seeing and meeting as many of you as possible.

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