Nothing like a flowing Maxi Dress

No matter what people think of you, keep singing your own song! Many may not know this but music is my sanity. I cannot go a day without singing or listening to music. I was having a moment in this shot đŸŽ€đŸŽ”đŸŽ¶đŸŽ”

Now about this dress 😁

I have quite a few favorite style looks. Maxi dresses & skirts are definitely on my list! Can you believe I bought this amazing Maxi dress for $20? Yes, you saw that price correctly! 

It was on sale at Mandee’s in NYC. I purchased this dress a few months ago. This particular color may not be available, but they do have many great colors & patterns in stock now.

 The material and the way this dress flows is beyond words. I received many compliments while wearing this Beauty.

Because this dress speaks for itself, I decided to minimize my accessories and went with a Bold Metal Choker. I don’t have earrings on because I forgot to put them on đŸ˜©đŸ™ˆ

 

Location | Bronx, NY

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Maxi Dress |Mandee

Necklace| Design By U Essentials

Camo is my Happy Color

I absolutely LOVEEEEEEEE anything Camouflage! You will see me with this Camo jacket no less than 3 times a week once Spring rolls around 😁

I enjoy pairing Camouflage with Black, Brown’s and Neutral Tones.

This is one of my to go looks; a white tee or tank with a pair of ripped boyfriend jeans, booties, Camo & bold ethnic accessories! I’m wearing Ethnic inspired necklace ‘Symmetry’ & my wrists are adorned with ‘Bamboo’, wood bracelets (which I wear 99.9% of the time). . .from Design By U Essentials!

Don’t be afraid to enhance your look with jewelry and bags.

I follow NO trends! I wear what I love; I dress how I feel!

This bag is one of my absolute favorites! It was a gift from my Dad 3 years ago. We were together when he bought it in Wa, which is in the Upper West Region in Ghana. It is also where Dad’s side of the family is from. As soon as I saw it, my eyes LIT up. So he bought it for me. I love to support local artisans! Happy we had the opportunity to support an artisan in Ghana.

In addition to Camo & more Camo, I absolutely love ART and color. It makes me Happy!

The Amazing graffiti art in these photos is by Brazilian artist, Panmela Castro. You will find this phenomenal mural on the walls outside of Andrew Freeman Home on the Grand Concourse in Bronx, NY. Visit if you can. There is nothing like seeing it in person.

Location | Andrew Freedman Home

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Camo Jacket |Forever 21

White Tank |H & M

Boyfriend Jeans | H & M

Shoes | Cape Robbin

Jewelry |Design By U Essentials

Bag | Gift from Dad

Mural | Panmela Castro 

Eye See You

Let me start off by saying Happy New Year! It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. This is my first post of 2017. I hope your year has started off with a BANG! My year surely has! I’m truly excited about all that is in store.

I would like to chat a little about gratitude. Being thankful and grateful is an amazing feeling. It’s a really big part of who I am! There is not a day that goes by where I do not give THANKS!

Today, I want to share a moment in particular. One evening while responding to comments on a post I shared on Instagram, someone wrote, “I most definitely have to draw you very soon.”  I responded by saying, “I would be honored.” He then responded by saying, “The Honor would be all mine. Stay Tuned!”

Imagine waking up to a tagged image of yourself two weeks later!

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My mouth fell open and I said, “Oh my God!” quite a few times! This image is phenomenal! It was beyond me! The artisit nailed my bold features, one of my favorite hair cuts, earrings I once made by hand, my fingers and even the folds in my neck. The detail was mind blowing. What really had me was the artist used two different images to create this! When I realized that, I just kept saying WOW!

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The above photos I have posted on my Instagram account is what he used as inspiration to create this phenomenal piece he titled “Eye See You.” Talk about amazing Talent!!!!!

After being in Awe for about half an hour, I immediately messaged him to thank him and tell him how much I loved it. I reposted it and the response from many was positively overwhelming. What truly made me happy is that many have connected with him.

A 40 x 28 size Canvas Print of “Eye See You” now hangs in my Apartment

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Photographer | Matey Ghoslow

The artist name is Tim Baxter. I’ve yet to meet him in person. We finally had the opportunity to speak last week. I used that opportunity to interview Tim briefly.

Meet the Artist

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When did you start drawing?

I started drawing in Kindergarten/first grade. Then, it was my brother & cousin who both inspired me to start drawing.

What’s your style of choice?

I like to use color pencils,  paint,  and I like drawing on my Ipad. It’s very convenient. I’ve been using it for the past year. I can change brushes, erase, and make changes. It’s like drawing on paper. I used a program called Procreate on my Ipad to draw your image.

The Process Click here to see the process Tim used on his Ipad In a program called Procreate to digitally draw the amazing image he created of me.

Why did you choose those images to draw of me?

You have a unique look. I used two different images because I didn’t want what I was creating to be an exact copy of anything. I wanted to create a unique pose, but also incorporate your images.

What’s your profession?

I am a Data Anaylst for a transportation company for the past 10 years. For the past 2 years, I’ve been pushing to put my art out. I’ve always wanted to work more behind the scenes. In the past I’ve done a book and album cover. It’s now that I would like to share my Art a lot more.

Where are you from? Where do you reside?

I’m born & raised in Brooklyn. I still reside in Brooklyn.

What school did you go to? What did you major in?

I went to Morgan State and majored in Business Administration & Computer Programming

Which are your favorite artists?

Ernest Barnes, Double Yoo and Damien Dunn

Are there any current projects that you’re working on?

I’m currently fininshing up a comic book that I started in 2003-2004. I have yet to publish it. I’ve always been into comics. I still have comics from when I was a boy. I have a series of characters that I would like to update. I also like to sculpt. I would like to sculpt images similar to my drawings; sculptures of females and of man and woman.

Tim Baxter in his own words

I’ve been drawing since 5 or 6 years old and my artwork has always been very important to me whether it’s for sale or just for me. There has always been a burning desire to either draw what I see, create characters or create something I’ve seen in my mind. My goal is not to be the best artist in NY or the world but to genuinely and honestly be the best me, the best Tim Baxter I can be. My hope is to leave this earth, when that time comes, knowing that I left behind a body of work this will continue to inspire, encourage, provoke and uplift. An artist whether visual, conceptual or performance, he or she should not be judged on the first or last piece they’ve done but their entire body of work, as a whole.

It was great conversing with Tim. He’s calm, funny and passionate about his work. You can view more of his work on his website

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I have LOVE for anything ART related. I believe in supporting artists  of any kind. I will finally get to meet Tim on February 19th at the UZURI ART Exhibit, an event curated by Like Minded People NYC. If you are in NY and can stop by, please do. I look forward to seeing and meeting as many of you as possible.

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The Brighter Side of Things

Think Happy. . .Be Happy! Stay on the Sunny Side of Life!

Yellow always uplifts my mood! It has many meanings; happiness, optimism, sunshine, laughter, enthusiasm, confidence, emotional strength, friendliness, self-esteem, creativity and uplifting are a few of my favorites.

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Wherever I am, I stand Tall!

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There are some walks that you have to take alone! No Worries. . .God will direct your steps!

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Fashion is what you buy. Style is what you do with it!

One of my many gifts is knowing how and where to shop on a budget! I bought this beautiful yellow tie knot asymmetrical dress from Rainbow Shops for approximately $18 and my sandals from Luichiny for about $150 about 11 years ago. I remember this vividly because my son was just a few months old. He’s now a vibrant pre-teen 🙂 My sandals are in mint condition! I’ve only worn them a few times.

I will share how I keep my shoes ‘Brand New’ for so many years in a future post.

Location | Battery Park City. . .NYC

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Dress | Rainbow Shops

Shoes | Luichiny Shoes

Nail Shade | Blue it out of Proportion

Jewelry | Design By U Jewelry

Blooming

When you’re growing and glowing, you have no choice but to prosper and allow yourself to bloom! Don’t go through life, grow through life! It does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.

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Follow your soul. It knows the way. Be one with your thoughts. . .Think for yourself. Trust your own intuition. Another’s mind isn’t walking your journey. You are!

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I have a thing for tanks, hats and  maxi skirts! There is just something about the combo that I love. I’ve never been a fan of floral prints . . but I must admit, I’ve been enjoying them all summer ’16!

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Where ever life plants you, Bloom with Grace!

Location | Battery Park City. . .NYC

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Hat | H&M

Top | H&M

Belt | Forever 21

Skirt | From my closet! Purchased from Century 21, Spring ’15

Bamboo Bracelets | Design By U Jewelry

Lipstick | Shade. . .Electric Purple by 127 East Cosmetics

What is African Black Soap?

I’ve been selling African Black Soap for a few years. I had an influx of orders for my Authentic African Black soap ever since I shared @janomi_hair post & testimonial on it ❀

Now, many have been saying & asking, “I know it works, but what exactly is African Black Soap?” Here is a very brief summary.

Black soap has been used for centuries in West Africa. It is still made the traditional way from locally harvested plantain skins, cocoa pods, palm tree leaves & shea tree bark, to name a few potent ingredients. It is then fermented which is how the soap gets its brownish-black color.

*Please Note* African Black Soap should not be entirely Black in color. If so, it is not authentic. It’s watered down & mixed with different agents!

African Black Soap is suitable for all skin types! It can be used daily and it is also great for washing makeup off! If you have any skin sensitivity, it is best to do a skin test. Place a small amount of soap (wet it first) and leave it on an area of your skin to see if you have a negative reaction to it. Because of it’s organic ingredients, this rarely happens.

Because of it’s potent ingredients, the soap is powerful. You should not leave ABS on your face for a long period of time.

When you start using this soap, you will instantly see improvement in discoloration and skin tone, acne, reduction of razor bumps and ingrown, fine lines and wrinkles. . .just to name a few.

 

ABS detoxifies and purifies the skin, due to its amazing ingredients.

Plantain skins is high in vitamin A, which increases collagen production; vitamin E, has natural healing properties which helps moisturize the skin; & iron, which boosts the benefits of both vitamins A and E.

Cocoa powder softens & firms the skin & its antioxidants & anti-inflammatory properties fight free radicals, repairs damaged skin, and renews skin cells.

Cocoa butter is a natural moisturizer loaded with vitamins A and E that fights & helps reverse the signs of aging. It also eases rashes, eczema, and psoriasis.

Shea butter also has vitamins A and E to strengthen skin, repair damage, and diminish wrinkles.
Over time ABS can help in healing sores, scars, & help with treating psoriasis, eczema, & dermatitis.

Palm oil is rich & packed with antioxidants and two forms of vitamin E which help heal acne and eczema.

Palm kernel oil, extracted from the fruit seeds of the African palm tree, is high in lauric acid, giving it antibacterial and antifungal properties that can help heal acne.

 

When African Black Soap is exposed to air, it may develop a thin, white film. There is no need to panic or worry. This is normal. It’s not mold nor is it a sign that it is expired, and the soap may still be used. African Black Soap has a very longgggggggg shelf life!

If you have any questions, please ask. You will be able to order soap at the shop on this site; shortly. Until then, please feel free to connect.

 

 

Beauty Standards. . .What’s Ideal?

I believe the answer will depend on whom is being asked. Beauty can be
and is expressed and translated in many forms. One may express beauty through art while another may choose to express beauty through fashion, hair, music or all of the above. In regards to physical beauty, there are usually various opinions and debates on what is and what is not ideal.

When I saw this image, I stared at it for a while. It fiercely resonates with me. 99.9% of what is written has been and at times. . .is still said to me. I went back to my natural kinks almost 20 years ago. The natural products you now see on shelves did not exist back then. At that time, I was attending Long Island University’s Brooklyn Campus. I befriended a few Naturalista’s at school and they provided me with information on natural hair products. I started purchasing Carol’s Daughter’s products. This is when her shop was at Spike Lee’s old Joint on Dekalb Ave & South Elliot Pl; literally a few blocks from school. When I found these products for my hair, I was the happiest woman on Earth. Not only did I have natural products for my texture; to see a black woman who owned and operated this business with her family was just PHENOMENAL!

Prior to going back to my natural kinks, I had a perm and wore weaves. I loved it! Society taught me that this was how my hair should look. I felt beautiful. . .but, there came a time where this stopped agreeing with me. Years and years of chemical abuse started to show. My hair was breaking, shredding, falling out…It was very weak and tired! It was then that I made the conscious decision to just cut it all off and start over. This also awakened a new me!

My natural hair downright offended folks. I would hear, “What is that on your head?…It doesn’t hurt when you comb it?…I really think you would look nicer with a weave!…Press that shit!…It’s too kinky!…You look like a coffee shop chick!…You really look African now!…You look like Kizzy from Roots!…Can I touch it?” I even received criticism from my parents. I’ll save my complete story for another day 😉

This image speaks volumes! Whether you are dark-skinned and natural, light-skinned with straight hair or vice versa; you face ridicule, judgement, whisper…all kinds of opinions will be thrown at you. This happens because society spreads it’s own convoluted messages on what beauty should look like.

Why should I wear my hair straight because you don’t know what to do with your natural hair? Why should my friend cut off her relaxer because you went back to your natural kinks?


Body Shaming. . .What’s That? Unfortunately, body shaming is a part of our daily lives. Women are shamed for being too dark, light, fat, skinny, tall, short, petite, busty, flat chested, having a flat ass, having too big of an ass, for being too plain, wearing makeup, having a thin nose, big lips, being too sexy. . .for just being a woman!

Magazines, billboards and social media outlets constantly encourage us to change our appearance. We are continually reminded of this through body slimming tea advertisements, body shapers, liposuction, hair, lightening creams. . .etc. These messages and the messages we may receive from others often imply that we should want to change; that we should care about looking smaller, thicker, darker, brighter.  .  .the list goes on!

Young girls are being corrupted and brainwashed daily. Mass media is one of the most powerful tools for young girls and women to learn and also understand feminine beauty ideals. “Before mass media even existed, our ideas of beauty were limited to our own families and communities.” Because of that, people would stick to seeing each other in person in order to form beauty ideals. But as mass media develops, the way people see feminine beauty ideals changes as does how females view themselves and one another.

Each day, girls are exposed to images of beautiful models and advertisements about beauty and fashion.” says Renee Hobbs, EdD, associate professor of communications at Temple University.

Beauty ideals are exposed to children from an early age through fairy tales and Disney princesses. The feminine beauty ideal has become more ingrained and cohesive in recent decades because of the expansion of technology and the relevance of mass media. Research has shown that the pressure to conform to a certain definition of beautiful has had drastic psychological effects. These ideals have been correlated with depression, eating disorders, and low self-esteem starting from an adolescent age and continuing into adulthood – via Wikipedia

Body Positivity

Again, Western Ideals have a profound effect on our perception of Beauty! It is no secret that the fashion industry has been guilty of body shaming and photoshopping for years! In recent years, curvy and voluptuous women have been taking a stand and fighting back on what’s considered “Normal!”  Curvier women are on runways and in print. The various body positivie and love yourself campaigns that I’ve been seeing are capturing many hearts. It has helped change the game. It has aided in redefining what “Beautiful” is. It has also taken “Confidence” and “Self-Esteem” to a totally different level!

It’s an amazing thing to see a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and dares to be “Unaplogetically” Her!


Colorism 

The term “Colorism” was coined by author Alice Walker in 1982. It is not the same as racism. Colorism is dependent upon the social status on skin color alone.

“Colorism is discrimination or bias based on skin color. Colorism has roots in racism and classism and is a well-documented problem in the black, Asian and Hispanic community. People who partake in colorism typically value people with lighter skin more than their darker-skinned counterparts. They’re likely to view lighter-skinned people as more attractive, intelligent and generally more worthy of attention and praise than darker-skinned people. In essence, having lighter skin or being associated with light-skinned people is a status symbol. Members of the same racial group may participate in colorism, giving preferential treatment to the lighter-skinned members of their ethnic group. Outsiders may also participate in colorism, such as a white person who favors lighter-skinned blacks over their darker-skinned peers,” says race relations expert, Nadra Kareem Nittle.

Mass media often bolsters discrimination based on skin color. Scottish artist, Rawdi, depicts the beauty standards of women of color and blackface in the fashion industry. These images are powerful! The black model is condisered too dark and her hair is too kinky. Her hair is being straightened and her skin is being lightened so she can occur to others as more appealing. The white model feels she is too pale and her hair is too straight. She gives herself curls and darkens/tans her skin with makeup so she can occur to others as more appealing (Blackface).

The images below are from an Animated Short Film titled ‘Yellow Fever,’ which explores Colorism & Self-Image among African women and young girls. This mixed-media documentary animation by Kenyan filmmaker Ng’endo Muki was a. thesis project at London’s Royal College of Art. This lovely animation explores the effects of Euorpean beauty standards and highlights the reasons why darker skinned women resort to bleaching creams to lighten their skin. Yellow Fever also addresses how certain beauty standards are passed down through generations.

In these particular images from the short film, Ng’endo Mukii’s niece states that she wishes she were American and white. When asked how she sees herself,  she stated that she is uncomfortable with her dark skin every time she sees her reflection in the mirror.

All of the images I shared is to provide examples of the different beauty standards and ideals that we face today. The question, Beauty Standards. . .What’s Ideal?. . .is not so easy to answer. Depending on who you are, where you are, your confidence and self-esteem level, what you view as beautiful, what you take offense to. . .will shape your view(s) on, “What’s Ideal?” 

How would you answer this question? How did these images make you feel?  Share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you!


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