Empowered Women Empower Women

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What exactly is Women Empowerment?

Being empowered as a woman is one of the most important things that can happen in our society at the moment. We are the carriers of the culture and predominantly the primary care givers. How and what we teach our young girls and boys, is reflected in the society we currently exist in.

When we continue to dumb ourselves down, deflect our successes, and when we constantly apologize for being who we are. . .we are teaching others that we are not good enough. When we as women lower our vibration, we are energetically transmitting our fears and insecurities to others. We are telling the world that we do not believe in what we have to offer and so why should anyone else?

I personally have had to fall and fall and fall and fall and fall (I’m sure you get the picture by how many times I wrote that) time and time again in order to not only rise, but to be able to stand grounded! The humble beginnings of taking my power back! I could not have done so if I did not take 100% responsibility for my life and without having a tribe of empowering women in my corner.

How can Empowered Women Empower Women?

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10 Ways to Help Empower Women & young Girls

1. Know Your Worth

Knowing your worth and value is vital if you want to have success and happiness in your life. For you to feel fully alive, you must have a strong sense of self-worth and exude confidence. It is not easy all the time; but it is so important and absolutely necessary. We all have the ability to develop confidence and to also have an optimistic view of self. It all starts with overstanding yourself as a person, accepting yourself unconditionally, practicing self-love, recognizing that you no longer need to please other people and taking full responsibility for your life.

2. Lead By Example

I’ve always loved this quote, “Instruction is good for a child; but example is worth more.” As you become more present in your own life, you will begin to enlighten others by your example. This is one of the most important ways you can empower women. Young women are influenced by their role models, so it’s important to be a dynamic one. Admire strong women, celebrate different types of beauty, empower women with humility and kindness, and encourage women to turn their dreams in to a reality.  

3. Be Open and Honest

If you raised your eyebrow after reading that, I don’t blame you. It’s not always easy to be vulnerable. Personally, it took me some time to share my most intimate and what I felt were embarrassing experiences at certain times in my life with others. As I became more comfortable doing so, I realized my truths were not only helping others navigate through their experiences, but by me being open and honest I was also helping myself heal. At times, it can be hard to share your experiences with others, but it can play an important role in giving other women a voice. Without women like Yaa Asantewaa, Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Michelle Obama, Serena Williams, and Malala Yousafzai; just to name a few. . .we women wouldn’t have some of the rights we have today. Thanks to these women for fighting for, speaking out, and sharing their struggles; real changes have been made in areas such as legislation, societal expectations and even how women and young girls view themselves in the mirror on a daily basis. While it’s important to share your own story, it’s just as important to listen to other women’s stories and experiences.

4. Shut Down Negativity

Stay away from anything and anyone negative. . .PERIOD! Women are constantly exposed to negativity as we’re often held to unrealistic standards of beauty displayed in magazines, on TV, and of course, on social media. Media has created a culture where women and men can freely express themselves. Social media has also opened the floor for others to slander one another and circulate negative comments about women’s appearances and or what they should be doing with their bodies. . .their lives. Negativity online has become a huge problem, especially among our younger generation. It’s important to lift women up by taking a stance against negativity; whether online, at the office, in school. . . it’s vital to combat negativity by continuing to promote truth and authenticity. Don’t be afraid to shut negativity down; no matter who it is coming from. Respectively, be as direct and honest as you can. The tribe of women you are supposed to have in your space will appreciate your honesty and YOU.  

5. have a self-care day weekly

You owe it to yourself on a weekly basis. My Self-Care Day is every Sunday. Depending on what my schedule consists of on that Sunday will determine my routine. If I’m home, I make sure I give myself a facial, take a herbal bath, wash and deep condition my hair and review both my personal & business schedule for the weeks ahead. If I’m out of town on business or traveling, I always make sure I set time aside to listen to some TED Talks and immerse myself in as much positivity as I can. My mental health depends on it! So does yours! Self-care is important to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself as it produces positive feelings and boosts your confidence and self-esteem. Self-care is necessary to remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important too. Continue to take care of yourself so that you can help empower and take care of others.

6. help Boost another woman’s Self-Esteem

Empowered women empower women, Right? So be sure to encourage the women around you. Make them feel special. Let them know they are strong. Encourage your friends to speak up. Make sure they know the value of their opinions so that they’re never scared to use their voice. If you have daughters, nieces. . .any young women around you. . .celebrate her self-expression; whether she loves to dress up in full princess or batman attire, or she likes to express herself by drawing, encourage her to be her authentic self. Encourage another women’s unique personality by supporting her interests wholeheartedly, whether she’s into sports, drama (the theater type of course, lol), pottery, knitting or academics.

7. Become a Mentor

Becoming a Troop 6000 Girl Scout leader two years ago is one of the best decisions I could have ever made for myself. I love working with young women. They bring me so much joy. There is nothing like a young lady giving me a hug and whispering, “I’m so happy you’re in my life!” Whether you find a mentorship program in your community or focus on inspiring your friends and sisters, being a mentor is a great way to inspire young women. Gather a group of girls and encourage them to participate in an empowerment activity. You can totally do it!

8. Support Women owned & Women Run Businesses

As a female entrepreneur who has the pleasure of getting support from other women, I cannot begin to describe what it does to my soul! I too love to support my fellow women owned and women run businesses. There is nothing like watching another woman WIN! Show your support for women in your community by investing in businesses run by your fellow sisters.

9. Support Organizations That Empower Women

Do what you can to support organizations that are committed to empowering women. Whether you make a donation, give your time, or refer a friend to a business or organization that makes empowering women a priority, your support truly matters.

10. love on the Women in Your Life

Say Heyyyyyy Beautiful!  Say I Love You! Say Thank you! Give genuine compliments while allowing yourself to also receive them when given. Help out the women around you. Showing the women in your life how much you appreciate them by sending a thank you card, a positive email or text, or simply telling them what they mean to you can truly brighten another women’s day.

Closing thoughts

Empowering women ultimately starts with you. Show your support for the women in your life, show them they matter, and remind them that they are strong and capable of doing anything they put their minds to. Changing the narrative for women and seeing real change is a collaborative effort. Us women need to stick together.

If you agree, share this article with the women in your life, and encourage them to be that Empowered Woman that Empowers Women.

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Styled by | Tima Samad

Photography | Jazz Journey Photography

Jewelry | Design By U Essentials

What’s in your cup?

I don’t know about you, but I’ll tell you what’s in mine! TEA, TEA & more TEA!

I love me some tea! Call me the tea connoisseur, lol. I’ll have a cup of tea over coffee ANYDAY! I’ll drink it cold or hot!

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I moved back to Harlem about two and a half years ago. You should have seen me. I was like a kid in a candy store. Harlem has changed so much since I left in 2005. One of my favorite discoveries is the tea shop, Serengeti! OMGgeeeeee! If you haven’t been here, you haven’t experienced life. The variety of teas are absolutely phenomenal! The ambiance and energy is also quite pleasing. The customer service is also impeccable!

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I just recently had a collaboration for Design By U Essentials with Fashion and Lifestyle blogger Rebecca Quainoo. She asked if I had any suggestions on where we should connect. I was more than happy to suggest Serengeti! Rebecca fell in love with this spot, as I knew she would. It was such an amazing space for us to connect, exchange ideas, chat about what’s next for us both and to talk about one of our many favorite things “Jewelry!” whilst sipping on TEA. We had two of my favorites, the Lemongrass, Ginger & Turmeric and Cherry Pear infused teas. Have a cup and I promise you; you’ll be going back for more.

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You truly get a feel of being in Africa when visiting Serengeti. In addition to the variety of teas that they have, you will see a display of amazing art work and artifacts. Having Ghanaian roots, I so appreciate this! Seeing the stool reminds me of Ghana each and every time I’m here.

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There’s also delectable sweet treats that will go well with your TEA.

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If you’re in NYC, particularly, Harlem. . .I highly recommend Serengeti Tea & Spices. You’d really enjoy this space and of course the TEA. How fitting it is to write this amazing piece during Black History Month.

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Collaboration with | Rebecca Quainoo

Photography | @dadouchic

Jewelry provided by | Design By U Essentials

Custom Made

When you feel good, you look good! Be sure to Customize your life! After all, it is YOUR LIFE and you are Custom Made 💛

In regards to my style, I really love Custom Made pieces. I have a closet full of dresses and skirts you will not see on another person. Custom made makes your look classic, unique and different! In addition to standing out in the crowd, you support another’s dream and passion.

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Fashion is what you buy. Style is what you do with it! Fashion is ART and you are the canvas; so forget the rules! If you like it WEAR IT! Make sure it’s Hot though, lol 😉😆

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Don’t be afraid to wear horizontal stripes! They’re always going to be a Big Fashion Statement! I had this skirt made about 5 years ago and this is my second time wearing it since! The key is HOW. . .what you pair it with and styling it for your body type.

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💛 Loving & Living Life 💛

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Location | Bronx, NY

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Maxi Skirt  |Nsaa House of Designs

Top | Rainbow Shops

Earrings| Design By U Essentials

 

Simplicity

I LOVE the outdoors! When amongst nature, I receive far more than I seek.

Be thankful for your life, spend time in nature, take it all in, breathe deeply, let go of your worries, forgive yourself & others & build your life around what you love 💚 🍃

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There is Beauty in Simplicity!

I love wearing basic items such as a plain tank or tee with denim paired with bold shoes and accessories.

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Location | Battery Park City. . .NYC

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Tank| Forever 21

High Waisted Jeans | Forever 21

Shoes | Kennyya by Steve Madden

Nail Shade | Blue it out of Proportion

Hat | H & M

Bag | Design By U Jewelry

Jewelry | Design By U Jewelry

The Brighter Side of Things

Think Happy. . .Be Happy! Stay on the Sunny Side of Life!

Yellow always uplifts my mood! It has many meanings; happiness, optimism, sunshine, laughter, enthusiasm, confidence, emotional strength, friendliness, self-esteem, creativity and uplifting are a few of my favorites.

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Wherever I am, I stand Tall!

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There are some walks that you have to take alone! No Worries. . .God will direct your steps!

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Fashion is what you buy. Style is what you do with it!

One of my many gifts is knowing how and where to shop on a budget! I bought this beautiful yellow tie knot asymmetrical dress from Rainbow Shops for approximately $18 and my sandals from Luichiny for about $150 about 11 years ago. I remember this vividly because my son was just a few months old. He’s now a vibrant pre-teen 🙂 My sandals are in mint condition! I’ve only worn them a few times.

I will share how I keep my shoes ‘Brand New’ for so many years in a future post.

Location | Battery Park City. . .NYC

Photographer | Matey Ghoslow Photography

Dress | Rainbow Shops

Shoes | Luichiny Shoes

Nail Shade | Blue it out of Proportion

Jewelry | Design By U Jewelry

Blooming

When you’re growing and glowing, you have no choice but to prosper and allow yourself to bloom! Don’t go through life, grow through life! It does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.

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Follow your soul. It knows the way. Be one with your thoughts. . .Think for yourself. Trust your own intuition. Another’s mind isn’t walking your journey. You are!

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I have a thing for tanks, hats and  maxi skirts! There is just something about the combo that I love. I’ve never been a fan of floral prints . . but I must admit, I’ve been enjoying them all summer ’16!

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Where ever life plants you, Bloom with Grace!

Location | Battery Park City. . .NYC

Photographer Matey Ghoslow Photography

Hat | H&M

Top | H&M

Belt Forever 21

Skirt | From my closet! Purchased from Century 21, Spring ’15

Bamboo BraceletsDesign By U Jewelry

Lipstick | Shade. . .Electric Purple by 127 East Cosmetics

Freedom

I constantly inhale courage and confidence and exhale fear and doubt. When you own your own breath, no one can steal your peace. Do more than just exist!

Fill your life with experiences; not only things! Remember, it’s your life! Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for living it the way you want to.

Constantly make choices that liberate you. To realize who you are is Freedom!

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I’m thankful for my struggle because without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength. Every brick that has been thrown at me; I’ve used to build a platform to stand on.

Self Love is the greatest medicine! Love your WHOLE story. Fall in love with taking care of yourself. . .Mind, Body, & Spirit!

Great things never came from comfort zones! Live less out of habit and more out of intent.

Be BOLD! Bold enough to use your voice, brave enough to listen to your heart and strong enough to live the life you’ve always imagined

Location The Highline. . .NYC

Photographer   Matey Ghoslow Photography

Ankara Jumper Designed by me 😁 Available for purchase Fall 2016

Shoes From my closet! Purchased from Faith in London over 15 years ago